Talk With Gloria: Married Yet Tempted- Guard Your Heart, Protect Your Home (Part 2)

Talk With Gloria 

By Gloria O Ukamaka 

Marriage is beautiful, but it doesn’t cancel temptation. It doesn’t make you untouchable, nor does it erase desire. And if you ignore the small sparks, they can grow into flames that threaten the foundation of your home.

Boundaries are your armor. Without them, even the strongest marriages can wobble when faced with distraction, attention from others, or emotional distance.

Why Boundaries Matter

Small lapses can seem harmless. A friendly chat that lingers a little too long. A compliment that feels flattering. Left unchecked, these seemingly innocent moments can escalate into emotional or physical temptation.

Boundaries protect what matters most. They safeguard your marriage from the slow creep of behaviors that chip away at trust, intimacy, and peace.

Recognizing Early Warning Signs

You can’t protect what you don’t see coming. Watch for:

• Emotional withdrawal from your spouse
• Seeking attention outside your marriage
• Overly private conversations with someone of the opposite sex
• Justifying “harmless” interactions

Recognizing these signs early allows you to address them before they grow.

Practical Steps to Protect Your Marriage

1. Accountability and Transparency

Share your struggles with your spouse. If something feels off, talk about it. Secrets feed temptation; openness weakens it.

2. Guard Emotional and Physical Boundaries

Avoid situations where temptation has room to grow. Social media interactions, late-night texts, and alone time with someone who could spark attraction need careful navigation.

3. Communication Strategies

Regularly discuss needs, expectations, and feelings. Emotional neglect is a playground for temptation.

4. Guard Your Time and Attention

Invest in your marriage first. Prioritize moments with your spouse over distractions that can chip away at intimacy.

Building Love That Anchors

Love is a lifestyle-it’s a choice.

Agape love is sacrificial, unwavering, and unconditional. It’s the love that doesn’t keep score, doesn’t retreat when feelings fluctuate, and chooses commitment even when the heart feels weary.

It’s the love God calls us to in marriage is what anchors your heart when temptation knocks.

• Forgive quickly even when you are wrong or right.
• Commit fully without holding back .
• Practice grace and patience even when routines get monotonous.
• It’s choosing your spouse every single day.
• Nurture emotional and physical intimacy.

When your heart is anchored in God’s love and your covenant with your spouse, temptation loses its power.

Facing Temptation Together

You don’t have to fight alone. Marriage is a partnership, and temptation is best faced together.

• Share struggles without shame.
• Pray and seek counseling when needed.
• Create mutual accountability.
• Turn temptation into an opportunity to grow closer, not further apart.
• Build emotional, physical, and spiritual intimacy together.

Remember: hiding or denying temptation doesn’t protect your marriage, it strengthens the enemy’s hold.

What God Says

“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” —Proverbs 4:23 (NIV)

Guarding your heart isn’t selfish. It’s intentional. Protecting your marriage from temptation is not overreacting; it’s loving your spouse and honoring God.

This verse reminds us that love, vigilance, and wise choices are your greatest tools in protecting your covenant.

Let’s Talk

Have you and your spouse ever faced temptation? Or maybe you’ve seen someone close to you struggle silently with it. How did you handle it together?

Drop your thoughts in the comments,  your voice matters here.

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