Talk With Gloria: In the Waiting ( Part 2)

In Part 1, we talked about the weight of waiting. How it tests faith, stretches patience, and tempts you toward desperation.

This is what many people don’t realize: the waiting season is not a holding pattern. It’s a classroom.

And what you learn in this season will determine whether you’re ready for what comes next or whether you’ll sabotage it the moment it arrives.

Today, we’re getting practical but deep, transformative shifts. Because the question isn’t just “how long will I wait?” The real question is: “What kind of person will I be when the waiting is over?”

Let’s talk about it.

THE WAITING SEASON REVEALS WHO YOU REALLY ARE

waiting exposes everything you’ve been hiding from.

When life is busy, when you’re distracted by people and noise and activity, it’s easy to avoid the hard questions. But in the quiet of waiting, when you’re alone with yourself, everything surfaces.

The insecurities you’ve ignored. The wounds you never healed. The patterns you keep repeating. The lies you believe about yourself.

Waiting forces you to face yourself. And that’s terrifying for most people.

Because facing yourself means admitting that you can be whole and still need pruning. It means acknowledging the baggage you’ve been dragging from relationship to relationship, season to season. It means looking at the version of yourself you’ve been presenting to the world and realizing it’s not authentic.

you can’t fix what you won’t face.

So instead of running from the discomfort, lean into it. Ask the hard questions:
– Why do I keep attracting the same kind of person?
– What am I afraid of that’s keeping me stuck?
– What part of me am I protecting by staying surface-level?
– What would change if I actually believed I was valuable?

This season is stripping away the fake so the real you can emerge.

And the real you? That’s who your future needs.

STOP WAITING TO START LIVING

People put their entire life on pause while they wait.

“When I meet someone, then I’ll be happy.”
“When I get married, then I’ll start traveling.”
“When things change, then I’ll pursue my dreams.”

No, darling. That’s not how life works.

Life is happening right now. Today. This moment. And if you keep postponing joy, growth, and purpose until some external thing changes, you’ll spend your whole life waiting.

The person who finally shows up won’t complete you. They’ll meet a version of you that’s either whole or still broken. And if you’ve spent years on pause, waiting for them to make life worth living, you’re going to suffocate them with expectations they can’t meet.

So live now. Travel solo. Pursue your passions. Build your career. Invest in friendships. Serve in your community. Laugh. Create. Experience life fully.

Because the best version of you is the one who’s already living, not the one waiting for permission to start.

YOUR NEEDS ARE REAL, BUT THEY’RE NOT AN EMERGENCY

Let’s address something people don’t talk about honestly: loneliness in the waiting.

You wake up and there’s no one to text good morning. You have a hard day and there’s no one to call. You see couples everywhere and you feel the absence like a weight on your chest.

And people will tell you, “Just be content.” “God is enough.” “Focus on yourself.”

And while that’s true, it also feels dismissive. Because loneliness is real. The desire for companionship is real. And pretending it doesn’t hurt doesn’t make you spiritual. It makes you dishonest.

So let me say this: it’s okay to feel the ache.

Here’s the catch: your need for connection is real, but it’s not an emergency.

You won’t die from being alone. You won’t fall apart if you don’t have someone by next month or next year. You’re stronger than the loneliness makes you feel.

And here’s what loneliness teaches you: how to be comfortable with yourself.

Because if you can’t be alone without feeling incomplete, you’ll attract someone just to fill the void. And relationships built on filling voids don’t last. They collapse the moment the other person can’t carry the weight of being your everything.

So yes, feel the loneliness. But don’t let it control you. Don’t let it drive you into the arms of someone who’s wrong for you just because they’re there.

THE WORK YOU AVOID NOW WILL FOLLOW YOU LATER

I’m telling you now: unhealed wounds don’t disappear when you meet someone, they transfer.

If you don’t deal with your trust issues now, you’ll bring them into your next relationship. If you don’t heal from your last heartbreak, you’ll project that pain onto someone new. If you don’t break toxic patterns, you’ll repeat them with a different face.

The work you’re avoiding in the waiting will haunt you later.

So do the work now. Go to therapy if you need to. Journal. Pray. Sit with the uncomfortable emotions instead of numbing them. Identify the patterns. Name the fears. Break the cycles.

Because when the right person shows up, you don’t want to sabotage it because you never dealt with yourself.

Healing is not optional. It’s essential.

And the waiting season is the perfect time to do it.

REDEFINE WHAT YOU’RE ACTUALLY WAITING FOR

Most people think they’re waiting for a person. But what if you’re actually waiting for the version of yourself that’s ready for what God has for you?

Think about it: what if the delay isn’t about the other person’s timing? What if it’s about yours?

What if God is protecting you from something you think you want but aren’t ready to steward? What if He’s giving you time to grow into the character, maturity, and wisdom you’ll need for what’s coming?

What if the waiting isn’t punishment? What if it’s preparation?

I know people who got what they prayed for before they were ready, and it destroyed them. The relationship they begged for became toxic because they didn’t have the emotional health to sustain it. The marriage they rushed into fell apart because they skipped the character development.

So maybe the wait is mercy.

Maybe God is saying, “Not yet. Not because I’m withholding. But because I’m preparing you for something you can’t handle right now.”

BECOME SOMEONE YOU’D WANT TO BE WITH

Think about this question that changes everything: if you met yourself today, would you want to be in a relationship with you?

Not the version of yourself you’re trying to become. Not the version you present on social media. The real you. The one behind closed doors.

Are you emotionally healthy? Are you growing spiritually? Are you financially responsible? Are you kind, patient, self-aware?

Or are you bitter, desperate, stuck in the past, unwilling to grow?

Because here’s the truth: you attract what you are, not what you want.

If you’re broken, you’ll attract broken. If you’re desperate, you’ll attract users. If you’re emotionally unavailable, you’ll attract the same.

But if you’re whole, growing, intentional, and rooted in God? You’ll attract someone who reflects that.

So stop waiting for the perfect person and become the kind of person you’re hoping to meet. Work on your character. Grow your faith. Develop your emotional intelligence. Build your life.

Because when you’re whole, you don’t need someone to complete you. You need someone to complement you.

And that’s a completely different standard.

THE SHIFT: FROM SCARCITY TO ABUNDANCE

One of the most dangerous mindsets in waiting is scarcity.

“What if I never meet anyone?”
“What if I’m running out of time?”
“What if this is my only chance?”

Fear of scarcity makes you settle.

But abundance thinking changes everything.

Abundance says, “God has more for me than I can imagine.” It says, “If this isn’t it, something better is coming.” It says, “I’d rather wait for the right thing than rush into the wrong thing.”

Scarcity makes you desperate. Abundance makes you discerning.

And discernment is what protects you from wasting years on the wrong person.

So shift your mindset. Trust that God’s plans for you are good. Trust that His timing is perfect. Trust that what’s meant for you won’t miss you.

Stop operating from fear. Start operating from faith.

GOD’S WORD

“And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.”— Galatians 6:9

The harvest is coming. But only if you don’t quit in the waiting.

CONCLUSION

The waiting season is not wasted time. It’s where you become who you need to be.

So face yourself. Do the work. Heal the wounds. Live fully now. Stop putting life on pause. Become whole. Shift from scarcity to abundance.

Because when the waiting is over, you want to be ready. Not bitter. Not desperate. Not broken.

But whole, healed, and prepared for what God has been preparing for you.

The wait is worth it. Trust the process.

LET’S TALK

Have you ever felt like you were trying to love but couldn’t access it? Or maybe someone loved you but you couldn’t feel it?

I’d love to hear your story.

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