Talk With Gloria: In the Waiting (Part 1)

Talk With Gloria 

By Gloria O Ukamaka

Let me ask you something: what are you waiting for right now?

Maybe you’re single, waiting for the right person to come along. Maybe you’re in a relationship, waiting for your partner to change a behavior that’s hurting you. Maybe you’re married, waiting for a breakthrough in your home, for things to turn around, for peace to return.

Or maybe it’s not even about relationships. Maybe you’re waiting for a job, for healing, for clarity, for a promise God made that hasn’t manifested yet.

Here’s the truth: everyone is waiting for something.

And waiting can be challenging. It tests your faith. It stretches your patience. It makes you question everything. And if you’re not careful, it can make you lose yourself in the process.

The frustration builds. The desperation creeps in. You start looking at everyone around you who seems to have what you’re waiting for, and you wonder, “When is it my turn? How much longer?”

Today, we’re talking about the waiting season. Not just acknowledging it, but learning how to navigate it without losing your peace, your faith, or yourself.

Because the way you wait matters just as much as what you’re waiting for.

Let’s get into it.

THE REALITY OF WAITING SEASONS

Waiting is not just for single people hoping to meet someone. Waiting touches every area of life.

If you’re single, you’re waiting for the right person. Waiting to be seen, chosen, loved. Waiting for that connection you’ve been praying for.

If you’re in a relationship, you might be waiting for your partner to grow, to change certain behaviors, to meet you halfway. You’re waiting for things to get better.

If you’re married, you might be waiting for a season of struggle to pass. Waiting for financial breakthrough. Waiting for healing in your home. Waiting for your spouse to step up or soften. Waiting for peace after years of conflict.

And beyond relationships, you’re waiting for career moves, healing from pain, answers to prayers, breakthroughs that seem delayed.

Waiting is universal. And it’s exhausting.

The temptation in waiting is to force things. To settle because you’re tired. To lower your standards because “at least it’s something.” To make decisions out of desperation instead of wisdom.

But forcing things in a waiting season only prolongs the wait. And settling doesn’t end the season. It just adds complications.

So how do you wait well? How do you navigate this season without losing yourself?

THE PROBLEM: WE’VE MAGNIFIED THE NEED TO BE LOVED

Here’s something I’ve noticed: people don’t just want love. They’ve made it their entire focus.

“I need someone to love me.” “I can’t be alone.” “I need to feel loved.” “How am I supposed to cope by myself?”

And listen, wanting love is not wrong. Needing connection is human. God created us for relationship. But when that need becomes magnified to the point where you lose yourself without it, that’s when it becomes a problem.

Because here’s what happens: when you don’t have someone loving you the way you want, you start losing your peace. You become desperate. You start settling. You start hinting at people who aren’t even right for you. You start chasing validation from anyone willing to give it.

You stop being intentional and start being reactive. You stop choosing wisely and start choosing quickly. You stop protecting your peace and start accepting chaos just so you’re not alone.

And that’s dangerous.

The truth is, it’s okay to want someone to love you. It’s okay to desire companionship, partnership, intimacy. But if that becomes your primary focus while you’re waiting, you will lose yourself in the process.

Because when you magnify the need, you give it power over you. And anything you give that much power will control you.

LOVE IS NOT A FEELING, IT’S A DECISION

Let me say something that might challenge you: love is not a feeling. It’s a choice.

I know, I know. Society has sold us the idea that love is butterflies, sparks, and feelings that sweep you off your feet. But that’s infatuation. That’s attraction. That’s emotion.

Love? Love is a decision you make over and over again, even when you don’t feel like it.

Look at Jesus in the garden of Gethsemane. He prayed, “Father, if it’s possible, let this cup pass from me.” He didn’t want to go through with it. He wasn’t feeling it. The weight of what was coming was crushing Him.

But then He said, “Nevertheless, not my will, but yours be done.”

That’s love. Not a feeling. A decision. A choice to do what’s right even when it’s hard. A choice to sacrifice even when every part of you wants to walk away.

So when people say, “I just want someone to make me feel loved,” I have to be honest: you’re not serious.

Because if your understanding of love is based on feelings, you’ll be disappointed constantly. Feelings come and go. Feelings are influenced by moods, circumstances, and emotions.

But love? Love is steady. Love is intentional. Love is a daily decision to choose someone, to honor them, to sacrifice for them, regardless of how you feel in the moment.

So throw that “I need to feel loved” mentality out the window. What you need is someone who chooses you consistently, not someone who makes you feel good temporarily.

FAITH AND PATIENCE: THE POWER COUPLE OF WAITING

Kenneth Copeland once said something profound: faith and patience work together. You can’t separate them.

And that’s the key to navigating the waiting season well.

Faith without patience is anxiety. You believe God will do it, but you’re panicking about when and how. You’re trying to force it, control it, manipulate circumstances to make it happen faster. And that’s not faith. That’s fear.

Patience without faith is hopelessness. You’re willing to wait, but you don’t actually believe anything will change. You’re just enduring, not expecting. And that’s not patience. That’s resignation.

But when you combine faith and patience? That’s power.

Faith says, “God will do it. I trust Him.” Patience says, “I’ll wait on His timing. I won’t rush ahead.” Together, they create peace in the process.

Hebrews 6:12 says, “Do not be lazy, but imitate those who through faith and patience inherit the promises.”

Faith and patience together unlock what God has for you. Not just faith alone. Not just patience alone. Both.

So if you’re in a waiting season, cultivate both. Trust God (faith) and rest in His timing (patience). That’s how you survive the wait without losing your mind.

NO AMOUNT OF WORRY WILL CHANGE YOUR SEASON

worrying does not speed up your breakthrough.

You can stress every single day about when things will change, and it won’t make the season end any faster. In fact, worry only makes the waiting harder.

Worry steals your peace. It clouds your judgment. It makes you act out of desperation instead of wisdom. It keeps you stuck in fear instead of walking in faith.

So how do you wait without worrying?

You shift your focus. Instead of fixating on what you don’t have, focus on what you do have. Instead of stressing about the timeline, focus on your growth in the process.

You surrender control. Recognize that some things are not in your hands, and that’s okay. God’s got it. Trust Him.

You enjoy the ride. Yes, you’re waiting. But life is still happening. Don’t put everything on hold until “the thing” arrives. Live fully now. Laugh. Grow. Build. Experience joy in the present.

Worrying won’t change your season. But how you steward the wait will change you.

And sometimes, that’s the whole point.

GOD’S WORD

“But they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint.”— Isaiah 40:31

Waiting on God is not passive. It’s active trust. And in that trust, your strength is renewed.

CONCLUSION

The waiting season is real. It can be challenging. It tests you in ways nothing else does.

But it’s not meant to break you. It’s meant to build you.

In Part 2, we’re going to talk about what you actually DO in the waiting. How to discover yourself. How to grow intentionally. How to address your needs without compromising. How to shift your focus from “when will it happen?” to “who am I becoming?”

Here is what you must know, what you do in the waiting determines what you become after the waiting.

Stay tuned.

LET’S TALK

Have you ever felt like you were trying to love but couldn’t access it? Or maybe someone loved you but you couldn’t feel it?

I’d love to hear your story.

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