Talk With Gloria: It Felt Like Love, Until I Realized I Was Alone in It

Talk with Gloria
By Gloria O Ukamaka

There’s something exhausting about staying in a “relationship” that never really began, yet somehow refuses to end. They call it a situationship nowadays, a.k.a. let’s see where it goes.

No titles,
No clarity,
No direction,
Just vibes, long calls, good mornings, emotional check-ins, and a painful silence anytime you ask, “What are we doing?”

They’ll say, “Let’s not ruin what we have.”
You’ll try to convince yourself that it’s fine, that maybe one day they’ll come around.
And until then, you’ll keep showing up like a partner, hoping one day they’ll wake up and define it.

But let me be honest with you, this is not love. This is emotional survival.

And you don’t need to keep surviving for love. You were made to receive it.

The Trap of “Almost”

There’s a special kind of heartbreak that comes from almost.
Almost a relationship,
Almost something real,
Almost chosen.

It felt real, until you realized you were the only one showing up.

Situationships are dangerous because they keep you emotionally invested in something that does not exist to begin with.
You give your time, energy, heart, but there’s no return on the investment (ROI).
Just confusion, anxiety, overthinking, and heartbreak.

I’ve been there.
I stayed long, hoped hard, gave too much, all in the name of potential.
I convinced myself, “They just need more time,” while losing myself in the waiting.

And the worst part?
I knew it wasn’t going anywhere. But I didn’t want to be alone because I was tired of it. For you, it might lack of courage.
And I didn’t want to start all over. You know that feeling? Going through talking stage after talking stage…. It’s draining. I settled, but it almost broke me, so I chose me.

But here’s what I’ve learned:

It is better to be alone than to be in a relationship that never began. And I got to discover that when someone loves you, you won’t have to wonder.
And when someone values you, clarity won’t feel like a threat, it will be a gift. Otherwise, it is simply manipulation.

What It’s Doing to You

Situationship doesn’t just confuse you, it slowly chips away your sense of worth.
It:

• Erodes your self-esteem
• Creates emotional attachment to inconsistency
• Normalizes neglect
• Makes you believe that love must be earned, not received

You’ll start thinking it’s your fault. That you’re too serious, Needy, emotional.
But the truth is, you’re just being loved too little.

And you were not created to settle for halfway love, but for LOVE.

What God Says

There’s a verse that hit me differently after the almost-relationship ended:

“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”
Proverbs 4:23 (NIV)

Now, I want you to that it is your responsibility to protect your heart, not your partners’.

It’s not selfish to guard your heart.
It’s not dramatic or desperation to ask for clarity.
It’s not prideful to walk away from inconsistency.

Your heart is not a holding cell for someone else’s confusion.

God’s love is intentional. It doesn’t breadcrumb you.
It doesn’t confuse you.
It doesn’t punish you for committing.
It welcomes you, and holds you, fully and freely.

Here’s the Truth

If they wanted you, they’d let you know.
If they were serious, you’d never have to ask.
If they truly saw your worth, they’d treat you like someone worth keeping, not someone worth confusing.

You were not created for emotional bootcamps.
You were created for intentional love. Love that sees, stays, and speaks clearly.

Don’t let loneliness convince you that almost-relationship is better than none at all.

And remember: the love you’re longing for should never cost you your peace.

Let’s Talk

Have you ever found yourself stuck in something that looked like relationship but left you feeling alone?
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