Talk With Gloria: The Gift & Struggle of the Waiting Season (Part 1)

Talk With Gloria 

By Gloria O Ukamaka 

I Didn’t Wake Up Wearing a Sign
I didn’t wake up one morning with a neon sign blinking “Still Single” across my forehead.
But that’s how it sometimes feels especially after scrolling through yet another set of wedding photos or collecting the third wedding invitation in a month.
People smile kindly. “Your own will come.”
You nod politely while something inside you whispers, When, Lord?
Waiting for love can ache. Yet hidden inside this season is something we rarely talk about: a gift.

Naming the Season

First call this what it is: a season.
Not a punishment. Not a label of failure.
Just like childhood and adulthood, singleness is a legitimate chapter of life with its own purpose and beauty.
Owning that truth breaks the shame.
You’re not “behind schedule”; you’re exactly where God intends you to be today.

The Inner Tension

You cheer for friends when they marry, but a quiet ache lingers within.
Some days you wonder if maybe you should just lower your standards, say yes to whoever seems good enough.
That tug-of-war-longing versus rushing-is real.
The challenge isn’t the desire for love; it’s letting impatience rewrite your values.
Waiting well means trusting God’s timing enough to resist the shortcut.

Purpose in the Pause-Singleness Is a Gift

This is where the gift hides.
Singleness isn’t an empty gap; it’s a wide-open space to discover who you are and why you’re here.
Re-align with your God-given purpose.
Sharpen your abilities study, create, serve.
Build character that can carry future responsibilities.
Find fulfillment in work, career, and friendships right now, not “someday.”
Marriage is beautiful, but it does not create your purpose.
Purpose is planted by God long before any wedding day.

The Silent Work of God

God often works most when we think nothing is happening.
He heals old wounds you’ve hidden, reshapes desires you thought were set, and prepares both you and the one He may bring slowly, quietly.
Silence isn’t absence; it’s preparation.

Practical Rhythms to Stay Grounded

To keep your heart steady while you wait:
Prayer & Scripture: not just asking for a spouse, but deepening trust in God.
Community friendships: that remind you life is bigger than your relationship status.
Skill-building & Service: grow, give, and let your gifts bless others.
Self-discovery, journaling, therapy, reflection, know yourself before you promise yourself.
These rhythms don’t erase loneliness, but they turn waiting into growth instead of drift.

Redefining Fulfillment

Your worth isn’t stamped by a wedding ring.
Christ’s love already gives you identity and value.
Life doesn’t begin at the altar; it’s happening now.
Singleness isn’t a holding pattern, it’s a stage where God writes stories just as meaningful as marriage.

God’s Word 

Hope isn’t pretending the desire for marriage doesn’t exist.
It’s trusting that God’s timing is perfect even when the calendar feels slow.

“But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles…” — Isaiah 40:31

That kind of waiting is active: leaning into God, letting Him make you strong, and believing He wastes nothing.

Let’s Talk

Where do you feel the tension of waiting right now?
What has God been shaping in you during this season?
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