Talk With Gloria: Lasting Love-Choosing a Relationship That Aligns With Your Purpose (Part 2)

Talk With Gloria 

By Gloria O Ukamaka 

When I look back at my waiting season, one thing I’ve learned is this: it’s not enough to just find love. Love without alignment will frustrate your life. In Part 1, we talked about the importance of knowing your identity and embracing your God-given purpose. Now let’s take it deeper because once you know who you are and what you’re called to do, the relationships you choose must align with that assignment.

Otherwise, you’ll end up trying to fit your purpose into a relationship and that is a wrong way to go.

Purpose-Driven Relationships

Imagine this: a young man feels a strong call into ministry, his heart beats for souls, service, and teaching God’s Word. Along the way, he starts dating a woman whose dream is to become a famous influencer, travel the world, and build a brand around luxury.

Now, hear me: there’s nothing wrong with enjoying life or being visible. But while his vision is about serving, hers is about status. Every time he wants to study and prepare for ministry, she’s thinking about photo shoots and brand deals. When he talks about volunteering at church, she wants to be taken out shopping.

It’s not just a small difference, it’s two people heading in opposite directions. That’s what happens when purpose is ignored. Purpose-driven relationships don’t compete; they complement.

Red Flags & Counterfeits

One of the clearest signs of a relationship that doesn’t align with your identity or purpose is when it constantly pulls you away from who God created you to be. It may look good on the outside, people may even applaud it but inside, you’ll always feel that quiet tension, that sense of being off-course. That’s your spirit warning you.

When you know your purpose, you’ll stop mistaking counterfeits for God’s will.

Mutual Vision

A healthy relationship is not just two people holding hands; it’s two people walking in the same direction.

Let me share a story.

I once heard of a young teacher who married a woman with a passion for writing children’s books. On the surface, those callings seem different but when you look deeper, they aligned perfectly. He inspired children in the classroom; she inspired them through stories. Together, they built a legacy that reached young hearts in two powerful ways.

That’s what mutual vision looks like not sameness, but complementing strengths working toward a shared mission. 

Staying Anchored in God

Discernment doesn’t happen by accident. It comes from staying rooted. That means prayer, studying the Word of God, fasting, wise counsel, and accountability. You cannot trust your emotions alone to lead you; you need God’s voice, His truth, and His people guiding you.

Otherwise, you’ll drift. And in relationships, drifting almost always leads to regret.

Celebrating Healthy Partnerships

I’ve seen couples who live this alignment out beautifully. Partners who support each other’s calling ( I mean good work they do), encourage each other’s growth, and point one another back to God. And you know what? They don’t just exist together, they thrive.

And that’s the beauty of love that aligns with purpose.

God’s Words

“Can two walk together unless they are agreed?” – Amos 3:3

“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor. If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.” – Ecclesiastes 4:9–10

Alignment is not optional, it’s God’s design. Love without alignment is just friction waiting to happen. But when purpose and identity are honored, love becomes fuel for destiny.

Let’s Talk

What about you, are you letting purpose guide your choices, or are you letting feelings pull you off track? Have you spotted red flags that you’ve been ignoring? Or maybe you’ve seen how alignment can make love flourish?

Remember, your story could encourage someone else who’s walking this same path.

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